Embrace It or Fear It


Embrace It or Fear It 

 

 

As I was sitting up in bed on a early morning, I put my feet on the floor. It was time to tackle another day in the Extraordinary Life. Diapers needed changed, lunch needed packed, kids needed fed and dressed. 


But before I stood up, my mind flew to Titus’ diagnosis and the word AUTISM.    

 

  

Was this really my life? In my head I said, “I really have a child with autism.” 


This might sound weird or silly to you that I would have such a weird thought like that. But I honestly believe that it was still a part of me coming to terms with our Extraordinary Life and calling.  


I know autism doesn’t define the amazing and extraordinary boy Titus is. But that word still lingers in our thoughts. 

 

The word Autism gets a bad rep sometimes. Autism is not a dirty word, but I know growing up I always felt scared of that word.

 

 

Autism is such a unpredictable diagnosis for your child and for the rest of your life. Every child with autism is so different and there is no cookie cutter way to parent a child with autism.

 

I watched my Aunt and Uncle parent my cousin on the spectrum and it looked hard at times, but they were the perfect parents for that calling. But me? Not me! 



But it is me. 

 



Sitting on the edge of my bed, thinking about his diagnosis, 


I had to either embrace it or fear it. 


I had to accept and embrace the calling God gave us. Not fear it. 


 

For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and of a sound mind. 

2 Timothy 1:7 

 


As an extraordinary mom it is so easy to worry and fear over the future. Will he love Jesus? Will he have a best friend? Will he be bullied for being different? Will someone mistreat him behind closed doors? Will he communicate? Will he understand he is different? Will our country be a safe place for him in the next 20 years? 


It isn’t always easy to give up your fears but if I ask the Lord to help me and walk through my fears with me, He will. 

 


“I sought the LORD, and He heard me, And delivered me from all my fears.”

 ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭34:4‬ ‭NKJV

 


Now let’s be real, I can’t be ignorant to the reality that some of those fears might happen.

 

As Titus’ parents we have to be proactive in protecting him. He can’t communicate with us right now. So there are levels of protection we have to put in place for Titus’ safety.

 

We can’t blindly trust anyone he comes in contact with. We have to be on guard constantly. 

 

But I can rest knowing that God created Titus and called us to this Extraordinary Life. He is in control. God loves Titus. He loves us and he walks close to us every day.

 

 





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